Long aelan blong Emae, polis i givim woman wan buklet blong tingting aboat relasensip.
Wan gud road blong talem everiwan, vaelens, fraet mo sumisen i no wan gud wei blong kasem hapines.
Emae hemi wan smol aelan blong sepat grup be wetem support blong Vanuatu woman centa mo Vanuatu Family Health Association polisman i givim nao wan buklet blong helpem woman wetem relasensip blong hem. Kasem hapines hem i wan goal blong everi pipol raonwol , be kandisen blong woman hemi dificult raonwol tu. Vanuatu i no stap wan eksepsen. Long everi kantri i gat vaelens from man i gat moa powa. I gat probelm wetem alkol, mo presen blong wok, mo jealousy etc… be problem ia i stap olsem from i gat problem blong komunikasen mo problem blong rispekt. . Iven sipos ol relensensip oli differen mo oli gat « gud mo bad taem ». Be oli stap gat sem kontrol bieva mo aksen we oli pat blong wan dangerus relasensip.
Naoia everiwan i mas luk save woning saen blong unhelti relasensip blong kasem gud reaksen.
Blong stopem relasensip bifo hemi kasem diferen kaen vaelens.
Yes, Vaelens i gat fulap fas : emosonel Vaelens . « Relensensip blong yu hem i shut neva mekem yu fil no gud abaot yu wan, hemi neva stopem yu blong stap wetem ol narafala man , olsem famili o frens blong yu ». Sexual vaelens : « Patna blong yu i mas karem permissen blong yu fastem blong kat sex everi taem. Yu mas stap fri blong talem yes o no long everisamting : kiss , oral sex etc.. »
Be i gat olsem fisikol vaelens : « olsem kikim faetem , kakai, pulum hea, slapem o stonem yu wetem ol thing ». Everiwan i save , tru ? be from wanem woman i stap wetem blak ae, from wanem sam woman i stap wetem man whu ia bonem posesenblong hem ? From wanem woman i stap wetem long semak bad situasen ?
Sipos yu stap insaed wan saekol blong vaelens o wan fren blong yu. Hemi minim se man i violent faestaem be afta hem i talem sori mo promesim blong jenis mo blong neva mekem bakegen, be vaelens i happen bakegen : Yu mas go long polis mo kolem emejenci namba ia : 22-222. Messej blong woman asociacen hemi simple : woman mas stopem akseptem. Centuri ia hemi wan centuri blong progres. Woman i abol blong stanap, blong wok, blong stap single taem we hemi no faenem samwan wetem semak vison blong hapines.Taem we evriwan i stap lo silens nating i save changem. Buklet ia hemi available long everi centa blong woman. Be olsem, hemi available blong man whu ia wantem tingting long relasensip i gat wetem woman blong hem. Nem blong buklet hemi : « relensensip rate ».